Everyone who applies for a Eightoutof10 party explicitly accepts our rules, which are designed for the security and comfort of partygoers. The golden rule is consensuality.
Privacy and security are priorities. Peace of mind is a vital ingredient of an uninhibited evening and we try hard to protect the events from unwanted intrusion. The location of our events and the other arrangements are strictly private to us and our invited guests. You must not divulge them to third parties as this may compromise the privacy of all concerned.
Capturing images at the party is banned. Cameras and other recording devices are not allowed. You can bring a phone but it must be switched off and not used anywhere in the party, except at the end of the night to call a taxi. Even when you do this, it is your responsibility to make sure no one is alarmed or has cause to believe you are taking a photo.
4. TURN UP TOGETHER
We do not let single men into our events. Even though he will have paid, if a male arrives without a female then his invitation is void. We never bend this rule. No, a man cannot wait for his partner inside. If a woman has to leave during the party, her partner goes with her. But that does not work the other way around – single women are allowed, so a woman can stay if her partner leaves.
5. NO SWAPPING (BEFOREHAND!)
Invitations to our parties are personal and non-transferable. No one whose details and photo have not been submitted and approved in advance will be admitted. We select couples as couples and if you turn up with a different partner you are a different couple and your Invitation is void.
6. DON’T BRING YOUR FRIENDS
Only couples we have invited will be admitted. It is not fair on those who have applied (whether successful or not) to admit people who have not been through the same selection process as everyone else. If you want your friends to come, they must apply in the normal way. Do not test us on this point, we are likely to revoke your own invitation.
7. REAL COUPLES
We insist that the couples at our parties are ‘real’ couples – you must have a genuine sexual relationship, although it doesn’t have to be an exclusive one (obviously!). Friends who team up just to find out “what it’s like” are not acceptable. Nor are single girls who ask a male friend to chaperone them. Nor are single guys who blag a platonic female acquaintance into pretending to be a couple.
8. NO PROFESSIONALS
We are happy for couples at our parties to have any sort of sexual relationship with each other – except punter and professional escort. Don’t try it. It sticks out a mile.
9. NO SELLING OR PROMOTING
Our parties are not business opportunities. Approaching people at our parties to promote other products or events is an abuse of our hospitality.
10. ARRIVE ON TIME
To ensure the party reaches critical mass in time for everyone to have fun, we ask guests to arrive between specific times (usually 9 and 9.30 pm). In addition we don’t want to stand on door duty all night. Special arrangements can be made to admit couples late if a problem is notified in advance.
11. DRESS CODE
The dress code is for women cocktail dresses, slinky evening wear, risque, temptress; for men casual suits, smart clubber, funky formal. No trainers and only designer jeans.
12. GUYS KEEP IT STRAIGHT
Our parties are for straight and bisexual female activity and straight male activity. This formula is the standard swinging convention across the world and reflects the consensus of opinion among both male and female swingers of all countries. This does not mean that couples with bisexual men are unwelcome. It means that when they apply, they explicitly agree that the male partner will be straight at the party.
13. BE THOUGHTFUL
Do not distract people enjoying themselves by holding loud conversations or through inappropriate behaviour.
14. OK TO TOUCH (SOMETIMES)
In the bedrooms and especially on the beds, it is also polite to approach people through touch in a sensitive and tentative manner. May I kiss you, may I touch you, would you like to join us?
It is equally polite to demur at a touching approach by moving the person’s hand (or whatever) away. Refusal does not mean ‘How dare you!’, it means “I’m sorry I am/we are fully engaged just now and do not want to be distracted.”
15. DON’T BE A PEST
Do not persist in approaching people who have not reciprocated your interest. Be sensitive of other partygoers’ reactions to your behaviour. Be sure not to make other guests feel pressured or harassed. We take action if someone complains that their time with us is being spoiled.
15. COMPULSORY CONDOMS
At our parties, all penetrative sex between people who are not regular partners is with a condom unless explicitly agreed otherwise in advance. It is a man’s responsibility to use a condom without being prompted by the woman concerned and to signal to her in an appropriate way that he is doing so. Repeat: without being prompted by the woman concerned. It is a guy’s job to put a woman’s mind at ease without being asked. Everyone is absolutely entitled to expect this basic good hygiene. Please come prepared with condoms of your choice. Men must change condoms between sexual partners. If there is a scene with more than one woman, the rule still applies unless they all, together, give their explicit verbal consent.
16. THE RED CARD
All our rules are reasonable. They represent a common sense way of enabling everyone to enjoy themselves. If we have to sanction anyone for breaking them, they may be asked to leave without their contribution being refunded and they may even be denied approval for future events.